Infidelity Therapy
Christian Help for Sexual and Intimacy Issues
Compassionate, Non-judgmental
Cheating Can Be Devastating.
Explore My Detailed Program To Unlock The Key To Making Sure It Never Happens again and Reclaim Intimacy.
If you’re here, your world probably just came crashing down on you. I’m so sorry.
Whether you are the one who cheated or the one cheated on, I would really like to try to meet with either and preferably both of you to help fix the marriage.
Infidelity doesn’t have to be the end of your relationship. With the right help, it can be a turning point toward a new beginning.
As a Christian psychologist, I combine Biblical wisdom with the evidence-based tools of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). I believe that truth, grace, and accountability go hand in hand. I am especially direct with those who have had the affair—not to shame or judge them, but to help them understand the deeper why behind their actions. Affairs don’t “just happen.” Together, we’ll explore the thoughts, patterns, and emotional vulnerabilities that led to the betrayal, and we’ll identify the gaps—spiritual, emotional, and relational—that must be closed for lasting change.
I work with many women, but I’m also experienced in helping men—especially those who’ve never been to therapy—feel safe, respected, and understood. If you’re a man reading this and feeling defensive, ashamed, or unsure of what to expect, please know: I will challenge you, but I will never humiliate or belittle you. I am not worthy of judging anyone.
For the betrayed spouse, I want you to hear this clearly: my top priority is helping you feel safe again. I will do everything I can to make sure you are not hurt like this again. Healing takes time, and trust is rebuilt, not demanded.
Sometimes, the affair stems from longstanding issues in the marriage. Sometimes, the person who didn’t cheat was unknowingly contributing to a painful dynamic. That never excuses the betrayal—ever—but understanding the full picture is critical if you want real change.
I work with individuals and couples in various combinations—whatever fits your situation best. I address common root issues like low self-esteem, emotional neglect, unmet needs, and communication breakdowns. Together, we’ll not only heal the wounds but build the kind of marriage that makes future betrayal unthinkable.
I don’t believe the lie, “once a cheater, always a cheater.” Most people, once truly confronted with the damage done, never cheat again. But trust isn’t automatic—it’s earned. Let’s start that work today.
Ready to begin healing?
Schedule your appointment today and let’s take the first step toward restoration.
You Need a Psychologist who can also do Sex Therapy
I probably have a lot more training and experience than most sex therapists. I started reading books on relationships when I was 15 years old (yes a bit of a geek) before going on to get my Bachelors, Master’s, and Doctorate Degrees in Clinical Psychology. However, I pride myself on being not just professional, but friendly and relatable.
But I think it is my personal experience that makes me unique as a psychologist/sex therapist. Like all of us, I had my own ups and downs in regards to my personal relationships and experiences with sex. However, I've also analyzed my own experiences from a psychological perspective, asked forgiveness, and have learned a great deal through my successes and failures.
I try to find out what is enticing about specific areas of sex, and how a person’s childhood history, their traumas, and exposure to sexual materials can lead to different desires… and behaviors.
More importantly, I know the process about how to help someone come out of unhealthy sexual habits. Using faith is the best way to combat it, but not through harsh condemnation, and not through softening up God’s standards either.
Why My Approach to Affair Recovery is Different
In Infidelity Counseling, there are many therapists who can help—but I believe that my approach goes deeper. Many therapies will focus on all the things the cheater did wrong and the positive things he should be doing instead. But I believe that this is not enough. I focus on uncovering and healing the core issues that lead to cheating in the first place.
What sets me apart isn’t just my doctorate-level training in Clinical Psychology or my 30 years of experience with couples—it’s that I work to understand the why of the betrayal that happened at its emotional and psychological root.
That means I will ask the uncomfortable but essential question to get to the essential truths—what felt good about the affair. What were the needs the affair was meeting. What role did self-esteem, insecurity, or a deep fear of rejection play? Most people, both men and women, do not understand that many affairs are not just about simple Carnal Pleasure. they are actually rooted in unresolved emotional pain: a need to feel wanted, powerful, safe, admired, or simply good enough.
I also believe that my focus on Self-Esteem-low self-worth, fear of abandonment, and deep insecurity—are often the real culprits. Men, especially, may struggle to put words to these emotions, but that doesn’t mean they’re not there. But it’s not just about helping the cheater not cheat again. By identifying these emotional patterns, I can also help them truly empathize with their partner's pain. After an affair, the betrayed spouse often wrestles with their own crushed sense of worth. Understanding insecurity on both sides of the relationship is a powerful key to healing, and a key ingredient that is often missing in others’ attempts to stop cheating.
There’s also a growing trend to frame every affair as part of “sex addiction.” I definitely do not take that approach. While there are some people that genuinely struggle with compulsive behaviors, I believe most infidelity stems not from addiction, but from deeper emotional and relational issues that can be faced, healed, and resolved. I reject the fatalistic idea of “once a cheater, always a cheater.” That kind of thinking leaves no room for change—and no room for hope … or intimacy.
Supporting Women Who Have Been Betrayed
While married women do cheat almost as much as married men, most of my clients tend to be where the man cheated and the woman was cheated on.
I have worked with numerous women who were cheated on, both individually and as part of the couple. I have helped validate their feelings and helped them to feel more empowered. I can help them understand the situation from a male’s perspective, not to justify it of course, but to help them help their partners issues. Of course, I try to help their husband understand their feelings as well. And when needed, I will help them get out of abusive relationships when it can not be salvaged.
Even though I am a man, I do tend to be more relational and emotionally sensitive and articulate. However, I still try to think logically and understand the male perspective, as well.
When the Woman Is the One Who Cheated
Infidelity is not just a “man’s issue.” Women who have cheated may perceive their crime as being even worse than when men cheat. Men certainly feel guilt and shame, but women can feel this weight to an even greater extent. They feel as if society will look at them and somehow just know, as if they have a huge scarlet “A” on their chest.
Let me be clear: Just as with men, I am not here to judge you. I am only here to help you understand what happened, why it happened, how to keep it from happening again, and how to rebuild trust and intimacy.
In my work, I take a very honest and direct approach, but always kind and loving. The issues of self-esteem, insecurities, fear of rejection-are often the root problem. Most of our problems come from our over reactions to our fears of not being enough. Self esteem issues are also the core issues for men cheaters as well, although women are generally more aware of these issues. A woman’s generally higher ability to understand and articulate these issues can help heal even more quickly than with men.
However, women’s general higher levels of emotionality can hinder a woman’s ability to move beyond the patterns that lead to cheating. Learning to control emotional dysregulation and the problem thoughts that result from these emotional swings is a key part of infidelity with women.