You love God.
You're still struggling.
Those two things are not a contradiction.
I'm Dr. Monte Miller — a licensed doctoral psychologist, Christian counselor, and minister with 30 years of clinical experience and 40 years walking with God. I help Christians who are dealing with the hardest, most private struggles of their lives — and doing it alone because they don't know who they can trust with it.
You can trust me with it.
Or text: 210-219-6151 · Online for all of Texas · Private and confidential
For Christians Who Are Done Pretending Everything is Fine
Most of my clients are people who have it together on the outside. Successful. Faithful. Respected in their church and community. And quietly falling apart on the inside.
Maybe it's a marriage that has lost its intimacy. A porn habit that nobody knows about. Depression that's been building for years but never talked about because Christians aren't supposed to get depressed. Anxiety that you've been managing with busyness and productivity. A crisis of faith that you're terrified to admit even to yourself.
You've probably tried praying through it. Reading through it. Serving through it. And it's still there.
That's not a failure of faith. That's a human being who needs more than willpower — and there's no shame in that. In fact, reaching out for real help takes more courage than staying silent.
There's an important distinction worth making upfront — and most people don't know to ask about it. First, there's a therapist who happens to be a Christian — someone with a faith background who keeps their beliefs largely separate from their clinical work. Then there's a Christian counselor — someone who intentionally weaves Biblical truth, prayer, and faith into the therapeutic process itself. But there's a third category that is genuinely rare: a doctoral-level psychologist who fully integrates clinical psychology and Christian faith as one unified approach — not two separate things running parallel, but a single coherent framework where Scripture and science inform each other. That's what I do. I don't check my faith at the door when I do psychology, and I don't check my psychology at the door when I open the Bible. After 30 years of doing this work, I am convinced those two things were never meant to be separated in the first place.
My interest in psychology and relationships started after my parents divorce. I was a bit of a geek, and at fifteen when I picked up my first book on dating and relationships from a Christian perspective. That curiosity never left. I went on to earn my Masters degree from Wheaton College — one of the most respected Christian academic institutions in America — where every counseling principle we learned was grounded in Scripture. My Doctorate in Clinical Psychology followed, along with 30 years of post-doctoral clinical experience.
I ministered through Young Life back in High School and in College and then spent 25 years working clinically in nursing homes — sitting with people in their most vulnerable moments, which taught me more about human suffering and resilience than any textbook. I also led men's ministry at Oak Hills Church in San Antonio — home of Max Lucado — which gave me deep insight into how men specifically struggle with faith, identity, and the things they'll never say out loud on a Sunday morning.
One of my earliest and most formative influences was Larry Crabb — a foundational Christian psychologist who taught me how to fully integrate psychology and Christianity. His framework has shaped everything I do for 30 years.
What this means for you is simple: you get the spiritual depth of someone who has been in ministry for 40 years and the clinical precision of a doctoral psychologist. In one person. In one conversation.
A Doctoral Psychologist Who Has Been Preparing for This Work His Whole Life
Why CBT and the Bible Fit Together Perfectly — and Why That Matters For You
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is one of the most well-researched, evidence-based therapeutic approaches in the world. It works by identifying the deep thought patterns driving your emotions and behaviors — and systematically replacing them with healthier ones.
The Bible got there first.
"As a man thinks in his heart, so is he." — Proverbs 23:7
God, who made us, understood the connection between thought, belief, and behavior long before psychology gave it a name. CBT is not in conflict with Biblical truth — it is Biblical truth in clinical form. When I use CBT with my clients, I'm not bringing secular psychology into the room alongside faith. I'm using a framework that is deeply consistent with how God designed the human mind to work.
Jesus himself was the master of this approach. He used parables, metaphors, and everyday examples to reframe how people understood themselves, God, and the world around them. That is exactly what good CBT does. I try to follow that model — speaking plainly, using real life examples, and avoiding the kind of psychobabble that sounds impressive and helps nobody.
Increasing your faith is the best way to improve your mental health. But it's not always that easy.
Christians are saved — but still human.
Depression, anxiety, and relationship problems can hit anyone, including the most faithful people I know. You try to lean on God's grace. You believe in the power of Jesus. And yet the struggle is still there.
That is not a failure of faith. This world is not our home — and we were never promised comfort here. Even the most faithful men and women in Scripture wrestled with depression, fear, doubt, and despair. David. Elijah. Paul. Job. These were not weak people lacking faith. They were real human beings in real pain.
Yes, growing in faith is the single best thing you can do for your mental health. I believe that completely. But sometimes there are deeply rooted thought patterns, fears, and wounds blocking you from getting there — and that's where the right help makes all the difference. Not instead of faith. Alongside it.
For the Man Who Has Built a Successful Life — and is Still Not at Peace
I work with a lot of successful men. Professionals, business owners, executives, leaders in their church and community. Men who by every external measure are doing well — and who are privately dealing with things they cannot tell their colleagues, their pastor, or sometimes even their wife.
These men have specific reasons they've avoided therapy. They don't want to seem weak. They don't trust that a therapist will actually understand their world. They've tried talking to their pastor and felt judged, or felt like they got good intentions but not real clinical help. They don't want to sit in a waiting room where someone might recognize them.
I understand all of that. Online therapy solves the last problem immediately — nobody sees your car, nobody knows your business. And my approach solves the rest.
I am direct. I don't do vague, open-ended sessions that feel like talking in circles. I respect your time and your intelligence. I will give you my honest opinion when you ask for it. I will challenge you when you need it and back off when you don't. I treat my clients like the capable, intelligent adults they are — not like fragile patients who need to be handled carefully.
If that sounds like what you've been looking for, let's talk.
What Brings Most of My Clients to Me
Hidden Struggles
Porn addiction. Sexual performance anxiety. Infidelity — as the betrayer or the betrayed. Things you haven't told anyone. I've heard it all. Nothing surprises me and nothing changes how I see you. No shaming or judging from me.
Marriage & Relationships
I do perform traditional couples counseling, but — I work primarily with individuals on their marriages. Helping you understand your patterns, your fears, your role in what's happening, and what you can actually do about it.
Depression & Anxiety
Even successful, faithful Christians get depressed and anxious. It doesn't mean your faith isn't real. It means you're human. I help you understand what's driving it and build genuine, lasting relief.
Men Who've Never Done Therapy
Most of the men I work with have never seen a therapist before. I specialize in making that first conversation feel like talking to someone who gets it — not sitting across from someone who's analyzing you.
Faith & Identity
Doubts you're afraid to voice. A faith that feels hollow. Questions about who you are in Christ when everything external is stripped away. These are some of the most important conversations a person can have — and I take them seriously.
Women Carrying Too Much
I want women to be empowered, in life and in their relationships. Women have unique challenges in matching their spirituality and coping with the difficulties of life. If you want a Christian man’s perspective, one that will push and challenge you, but in a supportive, safe environment. Reach out for a free consult and let's find out if we're a good fit.
I Don't Use Psychobabble or ChurchSpeack
But I Do Use Parables
Jesus used concepts that everyday people could understand — then pushed that understanding deeper. I try to follow that model. Plain language, real life examples, and concepts that actually stick.
I try hard not to use too much psychobabble or the latest social-media, pop-psychology or churchy lingo, but instead try to use normal, everyday language. My clients feel like they have a safe place to be fully open and honest in regards to their inner thoughts about themselves and others.
This is a Safe Place.
There will be no judging or shaming here. We are all sinners — I know I am. I will use the Bible as a source of truth and guidance, but always with compassion and love. Never as a weapon. This is a completely safe place for both men and women.
Tell Me Your Story. I'm Ready to Listen.
I have spent 30 years sitting with people in their hardest moments. I have heard things that would surprise you. And I have watched people walk out of those moments stronger, clearer, and more deeply connected to God and the people they love.
The first conversation is free. Twenty minutes. No pressure, no commitment, no judgment. Just a real conversation with someone who genuinely wants to help.
Or text: 210-219-6151 · Online for all of Texas